We love each other. This is often the first reason couples give when asked why they are getting married. While love is beautiful, and indeed the fuel for any relationship, it is not the engine. The engine that keeps the relationship moving forward, especially through rough terrain, is Compatibility.
At Sakeena, we often hear the painful phrase after a breakup: “This isn’t the person I knew during the engagement.”
So, how do you ensure you truly know the person you are about to marry?
The Difference Between Chemistry and Compatibility
Chemistry is that spark you feel—the excitement and the emotional connection. Compatibility, however, is about the alignment of your lifestyles, values, and visions for the future. You can have high chemistry with someone who is completely incompatible with you for a long-term marriage.
Introducing the “Choice Test”
Based on our 5-year research project, Sakeena developed a practical tool called the “Choice Test”. It is not a quiz you take for fun; it is a framework consisting of five steps designed to help you:
- Gain Self-Awareness: You can’t choose the right partner if you don’t know who you are.
- Assess Compatibility: Looking beyond the surface to core values (Religious, Social, and Psychological).
- Understand Expectations: What does a “successful marriage” look like to each of you?
Don’t Leave It to Chance
Marriage is the biggest project of your life. You wouldn’t start a business without a plan, so don’t start a family without one.
Ready to take the test? We have compiled the full “Choice Test” methodology and the foundations of a mature relationship in our free book.
Download your free copy of “Marrying Right” today and learn how to evaluate compatibility with insight.